“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example not his advice” — Charles F. Kettering
This year’s Crusade for Children was again a major success, raising $5,637,000 that will go to aid disabled children in their treatment and necessary medical supplies. And for the 61st year in a row (and that is every one of the Crusades), Jeffersonville’s own Ted Throckmorton was making sure the all important phone banks were up and running to take Kentuckiana’s pledges.
Ted is one of only three people who have now worked in every Crusade campaign, the others being Bob Pilkington and legendary broadcaster Milton Metz.
This year’s Crusade activities also included a golf scramble that was held a couple of weeks ago at the Elks Club in Jeffersonville honoring Throckmorton. Many of Teddy’s friends and a slew of local dignitaries were on hand to make up a full field of 26 four-man teams. WHAS news anchorwoman Melissa Swan opened up the tournament with a tribute.
I played on a team representing the Clark County Sheriff’s Office and I am so proud to announce we did finish under par, although we were well over the score that was posted by the winning team, which included some Elks club members and course regulars. Team Throckmorton was a loaded squad which resulted in them winning the Ted Throckmorton Scramble.
An investigation is underway.
Ted wanted me to thank the major sponsors for this year’s scramble which resulted in a check for the Crusade in the amount of $15,561. Special thanks go out to Monarch Beverage, Pfau Oil Co. and Don Ashby, owner of Kentucky Truck Sales and Century Leasing.
Congratulations to Ted Throckmorton on his 61st consecutive year of volunteering for the Crusade for Children.
FATHER’S DAY GIFT
My son Cameron is 19 years old. He is spending his summer working two jobs and is averaging 68 hours per week on the job to pay for his second year of college. He already had earned enough scholarship money to pay for his first year himself.
Cameron is a great kid and as All-American as one can be. It’s easy to disparage today’s youth and generalize about them. His mom and I feel blessed to have him. He makes us proud on a regular basis.
How could a father have any greater gift than I do with him as my son?
I don’t want to make him a martyr. We still have our moments of disagreements, and like any 19-year-old he sometimes thinks his Dad is not nearly as smart as he is. One thing I do know about any young person who has a shot of success is that they have to be somewhat bold, intrepid and a bit cocky to aim for their future.
As I have ever since he was born, I sometimes have to think about my own father and how he dealt with me at Cameron’s age. His wisdom and example taught me to sometimes hold back and not overreact to certain situations. Any parent knows that letting them go out into the world and make their own choices and mistakes is very important. That is also not a very easy decision to make sometimes.
I spent so much of my life wanting to make my Dad proud of me. I think I accomplished that in many ways before we lost him. I didn’t really know for many years that making him proud wasn’t all that hard to do.
He loved me and I loved him. That was such a head start, which I didn’t understand at the time and before I was a father.
After Cameron was born and I had to grow up so exponentially, it all made sense of how my Dad and I had interacted over the years. I remember telling him one time in conversation that I was surprised at how much fun being a father could be.
As I continue to age and as Cameron is becoming a man in his own right, another aspect of being his father often catches me by surprise. After all of the years I spent wanting my Dad to be proud of me, I find that now it is also important that my son is proud of me as a father.
The mistakes I have made as a father in the past I try not to repeat. My temper control has greatly improved and every now and then I have learned to hold back in certain situations. Being a father of a 19-year-old can be as hard sometimes as it was at any other age. The solutions are not as simple as when a cookie and a kiss or some well thought out punishment would do the trick.
Now, it’s all about the right amount of control and freedom. For the most part, he makes it pretty easy. And on this Father’s Day, the gift that I will value is simply the fact that Cameron and I have a great relationship.
We still can have a wonderful time together. I remember how much he needed me to be there as a father when he was a young child.
I just hope he will continue to understand how much his mother and I need him now to be there as a son.
— Lindon Dodd is a freelance writer who can be reached at email@example.com