During the normal work week, I tend to allow value to be determined by those around me. I crave to be respected by my peers, to do a job that is important and valued by others, to make a significant difference in my family and in the lives of others. And I often allow my opinion of my value to be solely shaped by those around me. If people are critical, if my boss doesn't seem to appreciate what I do, if some take advantage of my good nature, I become disenchanted with my job, my family, my life. But it isn’t my circumstances that have changed. Often it is my perception of my value in the eyes of others.
Over the next several weeks, let’s look at those valued, treasured experiences in life. I will describe them as a walk on the beach, but you may substitute your favorite vacation experiences. My brother-in-law will envision the slopes of Colorado’s grandest mountains. A colleague will imagine quiet morning moments in nature, his bow and arrow primed and ready.
I will vow to make this one change immediately. I will determine value from a standard outside of myself or the opinion of others. I will seek the important things of God on a higher level. I will see the work that I do, the husband or the father that I am, not in terms of the immediate or the urgent, but in terms of the things that are important. I will not rely upon the opinion of others to shape the value of my job, my effectiveness or my enjoyment of life.
Those are far too important of concepts to be left in the hands of others.
— Tom May is the Minister of Discipleship at Eastside Christian Church in Jeffersonville. He is an adjunct instructor in the Communications Department at Indiana University Southeast.