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Maybe that's because I'm a woman, or maybe because, like most men and women who are not Jacob, I'm looking for a little more compatibility than "inexperienced person who will agree to watch sports and have sex with me." Jacob may view online dating as an endless font of nubile young women to invite into his hovel (for a time), but I see it more as a reminder that a good person is hard to find, off or online. Either way, I think that most people are unlikely to conclude, "I like him, but wait — there are so many other quality men waiting for me . . . online."
Hess is a writer and editor in Los Angeles. She blogs for DoubleX on sex, science and health. Tweet at her @amandahess.